Bridesmaids Proposals – Why I Proposed To My Bridesmaids and Why You Should Do the Same! In today’s adventures of wedding planning I’m going to touch on bridesmaids proposals.
Bridesmaid proposals have truly grown in popularity over the last few years, and it’s a great concept that in my opinion solidifies someone agreeing to be in your wedding. I’ve heard way too many stories of people being confused about bridal party duties, or them not really knowing they were “officially” in someone’s wedding because they were never really formally asked. This to me is a truly hard concept because while most people will be thrilled to be in your wedding, you should never assume they will say yes. There are many reason why someone may not say yes to being your bridesmaid even though you consider them a close friend.
- They May Not Be Able to Afford It– Weddings are very expensive and your friend may not be financially staple to participate.
- Disagreement Among Others In Bridal Party– They may love and adore you, but they may not get along with other people in the bridal party. Wedding activities can be very stressful and when you involve others that don’t get along, don’t be surprised if they decline.
- They May Not Like Your Fiancee. – This of course can be a very hard situation, but if your friend does not like or get along with your husband-to-be don’t be surprised if they don’t want to be involved in your wedding.
There of course may be other reason why they don’t want to participate as well, and while you may be hurt that they said no, it’s best to have them not be involved, then to create other problems down the line. It’s a hard pill to swallow, but you can never force anyone to do something they don’t want to do.
I choose to formally ask my bridesmaids not only because its proper etiquette, but I never want to assume anything, especially when it comes to planning the most important day of my life. With that being said I decided to keep my proposals simple. I made them all cards via photoshop that coordinated with our wedding colors, black , white and gold. Originally I was going to mail each one of them the cards, but because I’m adhering to our wedding budget, I decided to post them via Facebook individually. This of course was a great way to surprise them, ask them formally, and all without it being a financial burden! I could have also asked in person but since many of them live quite a distance a way, I thought this would work out better, and they all said yes!
In my next post I’m going to cover different ways you can creatively ask your bridesmaids to be apart of your special day. Until then!
xoxox Danielle Michelle
Some of the cards I made (and yes my mom is one of my Matron’s of Honor…but more on that later!)